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Hey Tim So you understand God is not letting this happen so you grow. God is hoping you grow because this is happening. I think it would be wrong to aproach this as it sounds to me blaming God, He didn't want this to happen it is not a tool He designed for your growth, but He will use it as one to help you. Some times people grow and change at different rates, sometimes one may not be involved with the Lord while the other is. i don,t know what happened between you and your wife.
Ecc.4:12b says a three cord strand is not easily broken. I would have to ask did your marriage truly have the third strand in it,or was it simply two strands unravellingin seperate directions. Jesus is no gaurantee, I think you will find that christians statisticly have as many failed marriages as non christians. My question to that would be are they truly christians or just the typical oh yeah I believe in Jesus christians. We are called to live a lifestyle, which many confess but really know nothing about. I'm not saying thats you, I'm just asking you to think, was Christ the center of your life,or was he a cover for your life. As far as why he would let this continue, If you caught your kid throwing rocks at the neighbors car, you stop them let them know it;s wrong, the next day your kid is there throwing rocks at the neighbors car, you stop them, and the next day there he is again throwing rocks sooner or later you are going to punish that child. I'm not really trying to say God is punishing you eitherthats just an example of wrong choices with consequences. God is not an umbrella to protect us from bad decisions. There is a cycle that starts in many marriages. women need love, men need respect. .if a woman feels loved, she will respect her husband,If a man feels respected he will love his wife. Break that loop somewhere and the cycle reverses,no love no respect no respect no love. You say you still love your wife? Did she know that were your actions credible or is it just words,because anything less than loving your life like Ghrist loved the church would be against his will and not in line with what he designed your marriage to be, and missing the third strand.Only in Jesus do we have hope.Take a lessom from Job and in all things give God glory
Be blessed
2005-10-19 12:25:12 Posted by Ross ()
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By the way love your wife like Christ loved the church, not your life
2005-10-19 12:29:44 Posted by Ross ()
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I think Ross pretty much covered most of the ground I might have. In the case that you cannot be reconciled with your wife, do not suppose that such means the end of your relationship with your children. There is much strangeness that could become in your relationships here, but please don't give up on your children, and don't poison their young minds with too much negativity. I think you will know what to express to them about your thoughts and just how to gently be truthful and not vent anger without a good purpose for them. The fact that your wife might have written you off does not even mean you have to write her off. You can still stand for your marriage, even if she cannot. My suggestion is that you do that part quietly, and let God work on her life if that is what is needed there. Worry more about how your actions/choices are affecting others. It is alright to be aware of how other's actions are affecting you, but don't wallow in it any more than you have to. Easy to say for me, I am not in your shoes at this point. I can't hold you to anything here, but hope for you still.
He causes the rain to fall on the just and the unjust. Be justified in Christ, and don't curse the rain that falls on you...
In Hope for your Heart,
Mel
2005-10-20 14:47:23 Posted by Mel ()
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