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I find strength in the verse "But he knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold." (JOB 23:10)as well as, Psalm 27:1.
Know that with God you will endure all things. Find peace in this.
God Bless.
2005-09-04 22:21:25 Posted by Ponderous ()
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If I could, I would climb on a plane, fly over to you and shake the living daylights out of you.
From personal experience I lay the following out :
God is anti-divorce. FACT. Can you stand in front of God and proclaim that you have done everything possible to keep the marraige together. Can you truly say that you have fought the good fight? Can you say that you have been the best husband you can possibly be. Have you tried, changed, tried, changed and tried again.
Please don't get me wrong. I do not understand your situation and I do not know what has happened in your marraige, but I cannot stand by and say ok, it's alright to get a divorce without knowing that you have tried and tried and tried.
I see you have 4 children, all close together. I have 2 at 17 months apart and I cannot tell you just how much strain that put on our marraige. My husband seemed quite content to leave all the household duties to me even though we both worked. I did everything for the kids, all he did was play with them. All that additional strain on me built up a hatred for him within me as he always worked late, he never helped, always only did the easy things. We never or at least very seldom fought, but things were not well. Even though we loved each other, there was no loved showed. Each partners needs to be made to feel as if they are special or else the fire goes out.
Your children alone are enough to set any marraige on the down hill road and that is why it is so important to help each other with EVERYTHING.
My husband learnt that when he leaves work, he had to leave work at the office, coming home and working on the computer all night was the same as him not being there. I learnt that I had to stop moaning at him all the time (something we woman are pretty good at). We learnt that we needed to affectionately show our love for each other and the more the one showed, the more loving the other one became. We learnt that if we loved each other, we wanted to help each other out with the tasks of daily living. The more he helped me, the more time we had for each other.
Marraige is a circle. A woman needs someone to fight for her, she needs to feel special, she needs to be loved and helped, she needs to feel secure. And in this case, if it is she that wants a divorce, you are going to have to put your feelings aside and treat her as the princess she dreams of being. Have you fought for her?
If you give in without a fight, you let satan win. God wants you to fight and defeat satan as he knows that with Him you can win. See it as a sifting. Satan has asked for you and God has said yes. You need to see this in the spiritual, for the battle that it is. Do you roll over and say "satan, you win" or do you stand and say "jump aboard God, 'cause we are in for a hell of a ride"??????????
You can do this. Put that pride that God has taught you about aside and do whatever it takes to win her back.
I invite you to read my blog headed "the day God made me cry".
I promise you that if you hold on and fight, it will be far worth it in the end and you will love her a million times more than you ever did. Remember that marraige is sacred to God, don't let satan beat you. If God has come through for you before, He WILL do it again.
This battle will take a million I am sorry's, a million please forgive me's, a million tears cried in private and in public, but it is all worth it.
Touch her, hold her, tell her what an idiot you have been. Forget about what she has done and tell her how much she means to you, tell her how much you love her. LOVE CONQUERS ALL and through this you will learn just how powerful love is. LOve is your weapon for this battle. Satan cannot defeat love. I've been there and live to tell you how God made my marraige stronger by breaking it down first.
Please try again Timothy, Please.
2005-09-05 05:09:54 Posted by Lee ()
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It sounds as though you have resolved yourself to the fact that your marriage is over. I wonder...is God able to restore? Is God able to make brokeness whole again? Is God able to roll back the Red Sea, move mountains, raise the dead? Doesn't matter what your wife says, it only matters what God says. God can and does change hearts and lives. None of us would be serving Him, were that not the case. Yes, free will does exist,however, God has a way of changing our will. My will, governed by the flesh, would have kept me steeped in the filth of a sinful life. God's will was to rescue me and make me His own. With God ALL things are possible? Or, with God a few things are possible? What is true? Your marriage is only over if you have decided that God is unable to work in it, If you have decided that it is not worth fighting for, if you are to weak to get down in the dirt and fight like the warrior that God created you to be. Consider that there is more at stake here than your marriage. BE STRONG AND OF A GOOD COURAGE AND FIGHT!
2005-09-05 09:17:24 Posted by Rev. T ()
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I'll second everything said in yhe last two comments you need to take your faith away from your ability to make your wife change her mind about this whole thing and place it in Jesus.Stand at that door and knock,ask in his name because if you are living in the spirit not the flesht and what you ask in his name will be of his will and his will is that your marriage work,no question aboutit.
Make no mistake about it he still can and still does do miracles. It's not about your ability to fix anything. It's all about him
Give God the praise and let him take the glory
Ross
2005-09-05 12:47:33 Posted by dcyple ()
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Give me a F,
Give me a I.
Give me a G,
Give me a H,
Give me a T, what does that spell? Fight!!!
Don't allow the devil to steal your family!
Children need a (Full) time dad! My prayer is for you and your wife to stay together. If nothing else (for your childrens sake)!
_Marsha
2005-09-05 16:55:57 Posted by marsha ()
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